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Overcoming Anxiety – Naturally & Holistically

So Much Anxiety!

According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), an estimated 19.1% of adults (age 18 and up) in the United States struggle with an anxiety disorder of some sort (1). Among adolescents (age 13-18), this percentage was estimated to be as high as 31.9% of the population (1). Both of these estimates are based on studies from 2003! Do you think those numbers have gone up or down since then?

I would guess that the number of people dealing with anxiety has only gone up since then. Especially when you consider the state of the world today: many are worrying about dying from a novel virus, going through another recession/depression, losing their jobs, and/or losing their loved ones because of all of the above.

For many of us, the pressure keeps building!

Based on the current US population (As of August 15th 2020: an estimated 328.8 million) and the conservative 19% of adults offered by NIMH, we are talking about approximately 62-million people dealing with daily anxiety, stress, dread, overwhelm, and worry. Of course, this data is based on reported cases, and based on my experience and observation, I would suggest that this number is actually much higher!

What is Anxiety?

Generally speaking, anxiety is our response to stress or threats.

Some anxiety can even be good! Anxiety can help motivate us towards things we want to do, prepare us for things we care about, and protect us from serious dangers!

On the other hand, if our anxiety becomes disordered, it can interfere with our daily activities like our job performance, school work, or our relationships.

There are several types of anxiety disorders:

  1. Generalized Anxiety Disorder: Six or more months of persistent tension/worry (sometimes focused around money, family, or work, and sometimes unfocused)
  2. Social Anxiety Disorder: Fear of being judged by others or being embarrassed in social situations
  3. Panic Disorder: Recurring, often unexpected, panic attacks
  4. Agoraphobia: Fear of having a panic attack in public, plus avoidant behavior
  5. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): recurring anxiety-producing thoughts, whereby behaviors are taken on to help control the anxiety
  6. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Anxiety following a traumatic event
  7. Postpartum Anxiety: Any of the above arising after giving birth
  8. Phobia: Irrational or excessive fear of an object, situation, or activity
  9. Separation Anxiety: Fear of being away from home/loved ones
  10. Illness Anxiety Disorder (aka: Hypochondria): Anxiety about your health

It doesn’t have to have caused major interferences in your life to actually be a disorder… In fact, many of us likely have high-functioning anxiety, and this just means the anxiety hasn’t started to affect major areas of our lives yet.

But if we are spending a considerable amount of our time stressing, worrying, or feeling dread, we are probably dealing with anxiety.

Anxiety Attracts Anxiety

Anxiety has high comorbidity – most individuals who experience significant anxiety experience multiple different types of anxiety.

Why Do I Care?

I care because I am a survivor of disordered anxiety. I say survivor because I nearly gave up on life more than once, after years of hopelessness – seeing mental and medical health professionals of all sorts over the course of the 25 years that I struggled with anxiety. Over those years, I saw countless licensed counselors, social workers, psychologists, and psychiatrists – all of which inaccurately diagnosed and treated me!

Many of these professionals diagnosed me as having depression, and all they could offer was “talk therapy” and pills. I would get some relief by having someone to talk to, but ultimately, my anxiety just kept getting worse over time.

I literally didn’t get the right help until I figured it out for myself.

At this point, I have been free of anxiety (and medication!) for over 2 years, and I’ve spent the last 8 years learning everything I can about anxiety and how to treat it naturally. I’ve gone on to become a Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Practitioner and Emotional Wellness Coach, specializing in helping others overcome anxiety.

I know that if it was that hard for me (a middle-class, white female) to find the help I needed, there must be so many others who have suffered as much, if not more. Today, I feel an incredible amount of compassion and passion for helping others overcome anxiety! I want to see a world full of individuals who feel empowered to follow their dreams and live their best lives.

What Can We Do?

I may come back around to writing a full article on this subject, but for now, I’d like to offer this video wherein we explore:

  • More about the first 7 types of anxiety disorders listed above
  • The core challenges that people with anxiety face
  • How anxiety works in the body and mind
  • How you aren’t broken or wrong for experiencing it
  • Why now is an especially good time to get a handle on your anxiety, and
  • Several ways to treat anxiety naturally

Video from Facebook Live, posted to YouTube:

Please let me know what you thought of the video!

Would you like to see me write the rest of this article? If so, what would you like to know more about?

I look forward to hearing from you!

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Awakening & Evolving Beings

This is a shout-out to those who are “woke” or “awakening” – to those who dare to escape the norms or step outside the box! We see you, and we’re grateful for you.

What do we mean by “Coaching & Energy Healing for Awakening and Evolving Beings?”

We’re talking about anyone who suddenly realizes that they don’t like the way something is going in their life and they are willing to do something about it! Awakening beings are hungry for change, fulfillment, and they are brave enough to ask themselves whether they are really living up to their potential and living their best life.

Are you living your best life? Are you happy with the same routine of work, sleep, eat and repeat? Or are you just comfortable? Maybe even comfortably numb?

There’s no judgment coming from me, either way! Believe me! I was part of the rat race and did everything in life I was told was the American Dream – going to college, buying a house, getting married, slaving away at a desk to work up to having a well-paid corporate job… And not until after I had arrived at all that I “should” want in an “adult” life, did I ever ask myself if it’s what I truly wanted (rather than what others wanted for me). This unconscious creation had taken over my identity, values, and sense of personal power.

This is awakening: one day, you wake up and go, “Wow, I don’t like this pattern, and it needs to change.” Evolving is the next step…

What do you do with the awareness that you don’t like where you are? Some people flounder in a hundred directions at once, not able to really move forward at all, while others go fast and hard for a short period of time and then tucker out. Some people meander through trial and error…

Creating change is about sustainability and practice. It really doesn’t matter what aspect of your life you’re talking about, this concept applies. The hard and fast approach usually fails, and so does trying to do too many new things at one time. Fad diets, crazy-hard workout plans, new traditions/practices… You get where I’m going with this.

At this point in human evolution, a lot of us are waking up, and going, “I don’t like this,” and unfortunately, many are of us are getting stuck in this phase – where we don’t like the current situation but either don’t know what to do, how to prioritize what we want to do, or really struggle to feel we can affect any sort of change.

The point of this post is to explain:

  1. Whay we mean by Awakening & Evolving – done!
  2. Some of the stages in the Awakening process
  3. That anxiety and depression are common experiences along the process – and you are not alone!

In this post, we will get into Awakening & Evolving as two separate and inter-related subjects, starting with Awakening…

Awakening may mean different things to different people, but in general, awakening means increased consciousness. Awakening brings about a more expansive experience of life, freedom, inner-peace, fulfillment, and clarity of mind. Some people may experience awakening in stages, but awakening may also be a fluid, or even simultaneous, experience.

The symbol for anja (the brow or “third eye”) chakra

The Stages of Awakening

Stage ONE – Fitting In:

At this stage, we are typically going through the motions, carrying out societal expectations. We live in a world of “shoulds” and “musts.” We often sacrifice our needs for the wants of others, to fit in or gain approval from others. We typically identify heavily with our work or the roles we play (ex: “I am an accountant” or “I’m a stay-at-home mom”), and our self-worth tends to be tied very heavily to how well we (and others) think we play these roles.

We are focused on survival, getting through each day and/or maintaining a lifestyle we believe we must have. Our happiness is typically based on things outside of ourselves and not in the present moment (ex: “I will be happy when I get that promotion”), and happiness is the pursuit most of us select at this point. At this stage, we tend to see most things in life as either “good” or “bad,” and we are prone to rigid thinking that aligns with what we have been taught up to this point. We are typically buying into a “victim-abuser” experience whereby there are good and bad people, as control is a prevailing theme/challenge.

Run by our Ego, we tend to try to control other people, places and things – telling them how they “should” be or trying to change them, rather than changing ourselves. This is the stage where awakening begins, and it may begin with a passing feeling of uncertainty about the nature of life or “reality” or with a question like, “Is this all there is?”

Stage TWO – Questioning:

At this stage, we actually start paying attention to that question (or feeling) that appeared in the previous stage, and we begin to ask meaningful questions about life. We begin questioning the validity of what we have been taught up to this point – questioning whether laws, rules, or beliefs really fit us or make sense to us anymore. Things we used to like might not work for us anymore, like hobbies or communities we used to enjoy. There is typically a growing discomfort at this stage, as we might be asking ourselves, “What is wrong with me?” or “What is missing?”…

At this point, we might suddenly feel like the life we have isn’t ours or we don’t know ourselves anymore. We know we made choices up to this point, but we may begin to feel like it wasn’t even us that made the choices that got us to where we are (or they were “choiceless choices”). In this phase of confusion, we may blame others for the problems we experience (our family, the government, our jobs, etc.). The discomfort may cause us to begin questioning many, or all, areas of our life up to this point – our jobs, our family members, our friends, etc. We may feel powerless over our lives at this point, not realizing that our power comes from taking conscious responsibility for all aspects of our lives (and we are likely angered by the suggestion of that level of responsibility). We may move out of the experience of being a “victim” to that of a “survivor,” but we are likely still feeling a sense of powerlessness.

And even though we are questioning our identity at this stage, we are still clinging to it out of fear of the unknown (ex: “If I’m not an accountant, then what am I?”) and the conditioning that tells us we still need outside validation or acceptance. We don’t yet realize we are anything other than the human life we have built up to this point, but we begin asking ourselves questions like, “Who am I really?” or “Why am I here?” At this stage of awakening, overwhelm, anxiety and depression are extremely likely to occur. This is because fear and conditioning still have a strong hold on us, and our Ego fights hard to not give up control.

We will likely also experience an intense challenge (or a series of them) at this stage, because these experiences are attempting to nudge us into waking up more by continuing the questioning and pushing us into the inner-work necessary to heal. The ego will attempt to bring us back to the experience of “victimhood” due to these challenges; there is an internal struggle. How long we stay in this stage depends on how willing we are to take time with those limiting beliefs and attempt to break them down. We may begin to conceptually understand, at this stage, that happiness is an inside job, but we’re not sure yet how to put that into practice.

Stage THREE – Introspection:

At this stage, we may retreat from society a bit as we begin to learn more about who we are and break down the limiting beliefs we accumulated from others up to this point. It is an interesting time, indeed, as we may have previously thought we were trying to figure out who we are, we find now that we are also finding out who we are not. This is a stage of “unbecoming” – we start shedding the beliefs and rules that we learned from others, ones we unconsciously accepted as true in the past and took into ourselves. We now see that so much of what we thought we were was not us at all…

We might feel really relieved to have this newfound understanding of who we are and who we are not, but grief is also a really common experience at this point. We might feel like, “Wow! I wasted SO much time” or we might just be horribly sad about what we never got to have in life because of how asleep we used to be. At this stage, it can also be hard to see that most of the people around us are still asleep in the ways we used to be – not questioning what they were conditioned to believe, going through the motions, and playing into the paradigm of control and duality.

This stage can feel quite lonely. Judgement is likely to appear more predominantly at this stage as well. We likely see others as asleep and judge them as not being as “good” or as “evolved” as us. It is a less black-and-white thinking, but judgement remains. This thinking can create more separation when we focus on trying to wake others up. Others may feel this judgement and mirror it back at us, judging us in return (as “weird” or even “crazy”). Where we may have began questioning (our family, jobs, friends, etc.) in the previous stage, we may now be pushing them away.

This can be a really strange place because we can simultaneously feel that maybe everything is connected, and yet, we might also feel very disconnected from all other beings we know. We know we don’t fit in anymore, and we might fight with wanting to go back, out of a sense of loneliness. And because we feel lonely, we might struggle with our sense of worthiness since the externally-derived worthiness from previous stages is no longer available to us (or doesn’t work for us anymore).

This is the stage where people are most likely to begin trying a spiritual practice of some sort to help relieve the emotional pain they experience. We might try yoga, meditation or mindfulness practices. When we do this, we may start recognizing the relationship between our thoughts and our experiences and endeavor to control our thoughts. We will likely experience an internal struggle, almost like two sides of our mind are trying to speak/think, and we are arguing with ourselves – swinging between resistance and surrender (ego and higher self/spirit). It is really important at this stage not to fall into spiritual bypassing: this is kind of a “good vibes only” mentality whereby various methods may be used to avoid/escape the pain and suffering of being human. Bypassing only delays your growth – remaining issues must be faced head-on!

Interestingly, this stage can actually seem to be many stages or be experienced as many separate awakenings. This is because your higher self is in the process of integrating. You have awakenings, or new levels of awareness, of your multidimensional nature. Each time, you may think you have arrived, only to find yourself back in the throws of unconscious experience again and again…

Stage FOUR – Resolution:

This is the stage at which the Higher Self has taken predominance over your Ego in everyday life. The internal struggle dies down, and a sense of knowing overshadows (or enlightens) your doubts or fears. At this stage, the predominant experience is deep inner-peace and knowing and believing in who you really are and your purpose.

Some may say that your ego has died at this stage, but I don’t think the ego dies. The ego is inherent to the human experience, and as such, the resolution comes about through integration and love, rather than a death and hatred. Our Higher Self is able to look upon the Ego with great compassion, understanding, and love. There is a level of acceptance that the Ego comes with the human experience and has a purpose of its own as well.

At this stage, you have finished shedding the beliefs that don’t support you and help you grow. What remains are the beliefs that support a growing sense of harmony and unity in all things. Surrender is the predominant experience – faith, trust, and compassion prevail over fear, control and judgement. Also, you likely have either found a job that aligns with your authentic self or you have made peace with what you do for your livelihood.

You now understand how your past and present came to be and do not feel like a captive of it; rather, you take responsibility for the entirety of your life. You see there is no such thing as victimhood and you don’t blame others for any part of your experience. At this stage, you also understand and experience the power of being in the present moment, and you no longer choose to live in your thoughts of the past or the future. You have stopped the pursuit of happiness because you have discovered it is in the present moment and internally-derived.

You have also released the desire to gain your self-worth from anyone outside of yourself. Instead, you experience deep, unconditional self-love. And while you may still be alone, or mostly alone, you likely no longer (or very rarely) experience the feeling of loneliness, as you begin to feel the experience of “oneness” and “unity” with all that is. Relationships are improving and new people who come into your life are better aligned with who you now know yourself to be.

At this point, you have also stopped trying to change anyone else or make them “wake up.” And interestingly, others around you likely begin awakening, almost as if (and maybe it is related) they are awakening because you have surrendered to the process rather than trying to control it – because your focus is internal, rather than external. Helping others arises out of love, joy and inspiration, rather than out of a feeling that you need to help or “fix” anyone else. You know you are not responsible for anyone else’s journey or experience, but rather, you have the ability to help them empower themselves.

Also, spiritual practices that may have been developed in the previous stage are no longer practiced out of sense that you need to get somewhere or get rid of something, but rather because this practice feels really good. Maybe you are no longer seeking escape from your human experience through these practices, but rather using them to ground your newfound sense of self into this human experience in deeper and more meaningful ways. It is a natural experience, and it may provide you immense amounts of information, insight, and peace.

Gratitude and appreciation for life, in all forms, is the most common state of being at this stage. This doesn’t mean you will never have moments of other experiences. You still experience the full range of emotions, but they no longer control you, as you have mastered the ability to witness and respond (rather than react) to your experiences and emotions. You are still you, so authentically you, and you experience a more easy-going approach to life.

You are beginning the process of creating your own “heaven on earth” and you’re capable of attracting what you want in life.

Stage FIVE – Creator Consciousness:

This stage is supposedly absolute enlightenment. I cannot write very much about it because it is not yet part of my personal experience.

It is my understanding that this is a deepening of the aspects of stage four, and the ability to create deepens and strengthens. Many who claim to be in this stage experience themselves as the entirety of “God” rather than a piece or expression of “God.”

Again, I won’t write more about this stage because I don’t yet know the Truth of the matter when it comes to this stage, and so I will not profess to know it. I will only claim that I know I have not yet reached this stage of awakening for myself. I feel no judgment or shame that I have not yet arrived at this stage because I am entirely contented in my current stage of consciousness, and I trust the process will continue to unfold, in divine time.


I want to reiterate that some aspects of each of the stages may blend together… It isn’t going to look the same for everyone. I also want to point out that it’s less important that you identify “where” in the process you are (or others are) – the label is entirely unimportant. What is important is that you know you’re not alone in this awakening process, that you are on a journey that is ever-evolving, and you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

As you move through your life experiences, you will likely see aspects of returning to earlier stages (these are like mini-awakenings) at some points. There is nothing wrong with this! It doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong! It just means some aspect of you is still awakening and evolving!

You may have noted that the experience of awakening begins with an awareness that something doesn’t feel quite right… and this often brings about anxiety and/or depression that may persist through the first two or three stages.

I wanted to write about this because many people who are in the beginning stages of awakening, experiencing that emotional turmoil, may not even realize that they are beginning a beautiful and amazing journey of waking up! And while much of the work is done on and through the self, it doesn’t have to be done entirely alone.

This is why I am doing what I am doing as an Intuitive Emotional Wellness Coach. I am not here to fix anyone or make them wake up. I am here as a “way-shower” – someone who has moved past the beginning stages of awakening and can now offer a template that empowers others to continue on their journey. And I write this now to ensure you that wherever you are along this journey is both exactly where you are meant to be and entirely valid. And in fact, you are not alone.

Learn more about how I can assist you in your awakening and evolving journey through Coaching Sessions or Healing Journies.

Evolving

According to merriam-webster dictionary, to evolve is “to gradually become clearer or more detailed.” Synonyms include the words, “develop, elaborate, unfold” and the like.

This is exactly what the awakening process is – the evolution of human consciousness. As we are awakening, we are becoming more clear and detailed about who and what we are (and what we are not). We are unfolding who we truly are and separating illusion from truth.

Awareness is the first step to anything.

Being aware of what doesn’t feel right to us… Being aware that we can ask ourselves better questions… Being aware that we can make different choices.

After awareness comes the decision to evolve.

So now that you are aware, what will you do about it? How will you increase your clarity on this? How will you unfold this situation?

Sometimes we are very ineffective in this part of the process… For example, we may become aware that we have a pattern of picking mates who are “bad” for us, but a lot of the time, our response to this is to shut down in some way (ex: ‘I will never trust someone again” or “I will never let myself be vulnerable again”).

Shutting down like this is the answer that comes from the Ego. The Ego wants to keep us trapped in fear and separation. This decision keeps our growth stunted, delaying our evolution. The Ego is recognized by its rigid thinking, fear-based decision-making, and rushing attitude/energy. You don’t have to “solve” this “problem” – you merely have to be aware of it, hold that awareness, believe you have a choice in the matter, and watch what happens next.

A lot of us rush into decisions about how we are going to solve our unwanted patterns, only to find that no matter what we do, we fall into the pattern again and again – or we only make very small improvements over time. This is because as soon as we make that decision, we release the awareness, thinking that something else is going to resolve the pattern.

SLOW DOWN

Awareness is like a muscle that’s likely been atrophying all of your life.

Mindfulness and awareness take practice, persistence, and a whole lot of love.

So what now? Are you ready to evolve? Are you ready to continue your path of awakening in a new and empowered way?

I sure hope so!

I’m here for you. You’re not alone.

You can do it. I believe in you.

Love & Light to You,

Kinsey

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Welcome!

In the beginning, there was LOVE

Love recognizes no barriers.

— Maya Angelou

Welcome to my blog. This is the beginning of a new chapter in my life, and I wish to share it with YOU! I was inspired to start my own webpage where I will share my thoughts and experiences regarding unconditional love, energy, law of attraction, yoga, meditation, healing modalities, and other spiritual concepts and activities. It is my hope that these posts will help others find more peace and joy in their own lives as well.

My deepest desire is to show others that we are more similar than we are different, and that by focusing on our similarities, we can unite into a stronger and more abundant, peaceful and loving existence. We all want to love and be loved. We long for a sense of belonging. These desires expand beyond the human species, but given the medium of these communications, obviously these posts are intended for other beings who are presently having a human experience.

The title for this post is “In the beginning, there was LOVE” for more than one reason:

  1. The creation of this blog was inspired by the concept of, and my personal experiences with, unconditional love. Rest assured that we will definitely get into that more, but for now, suffice to say, the premise of this creation is LOVE.
  2. I personally believe that the energy of unconditional love is what brought life into being on the planet Earth… In other words, I believe Mother Earth was made out of unconditional love and so were all of her inhabitants.
    • Some people may call this energy “God” (or one of the many other other names from spiritual and religious texts).
    • Some people may not believe in God or anything like that, in which case, I’d venture to guess that just the energy of love being a necessary component in creation may be a little more digestible (ex: how does a baby grow without the love of a parent to care for it?).

Now that you know the motivation behind what I write here, please go enjoy my blog. It is made with love, from my heart to yours.

Soul Warrior: Accessing Realms Beyond The Veil

Soul Warrior is available on Amazon

I am very excited to announce that I have recently become an international best-selling author!

As of today, November 18th, 2020, we have released our ebook and paperback versions. The authors are also working on creating an audiobook version as well! Although the release date for an audible version of this book is still TBD, this post will be updated when I have more information about that release.

Our initial release of the ebook was on sale for only $0.99 USD because we wanted it to be accessible to the highest number of people. The ebook price has gone up a little since launch (still a very reasonable $3.99 for an amazing book!) in part because we want to continue earning money for the charity we’re supporting…

You see, we didn’t write this book for money, fame, and glory – we wrote it for the impact we hope it will have on others and on the world.

I promise I will come back to our intended impact, but first, a little context…


Book Unveiling Video

In this video, I unpackage the paperback version of the book, show you the book, read the back of the book, read the chapter titles and author names, and read a sneak preview of my chapter…


What is this book about?!

This book features the stories of 20 psychics, mystics, and healers who work in energetic, spiritual, and subconscious realms.

These spiritual leaders and healers share their stories of how they have awakened and used their spiritual gifts to traverse and overcome major life challenges – how they became Soul Warriors! They share the wisdom, love, and joy they have directly experienced in their journeys beyond the veil. Among our authors, we have Shamans, Reiki Masters, Psychics, Hypnotherapists, and more! It is packed with inspiration, healing frequencies, and deep spiritual wisdom for all!

My Chapter – Exploring & Healing the Subconscious for Deep Transformation:

My chapter includes a channeled message explaining the differences between our Ego and our Higher Self, the differences between the Conscious and Subconscious Mind, and how we can use the conscious mind to access and heal subconscious material that creates patterns in our lives that make us feel stuck. I believe my contribution to this book project will support you in recognizing ego and parts of your psyche, healing and integrating them, and breaking patterns that no longer serve you.

After the channeled message, I share a bit about how this work in the subconscious realm healed me from trauma and chronic anxiety, depression, and anger issues. I also share a bit about how this subconscious work has helped many others as well. I am, after all, an Intuitive Emotional Wellness Coach, specializing in subconscious work for healing trauma, breaking unwanted patterns, and enhancing emotional wellness. I have seen some pretty incredible, lasting transformations in my clients…

Other chapters include personal stories of working in the energetic, subconscious and spiritual realms, lessons learned, powerful energetic activations, and lots more. Whether you are new to it or well on your path of exploring these realms, you are going to want to get your copy!

If you feel stuck in life, or you’re just tired of going through the motions of 3D existence, this book is for you! Even if you don’t feel stuck in life but you wonder if there is more to this whole life journey than just the physical human life, then this book is for you!

I truly believe this book will inspire you and lead you to sources of healing and wisdom you have within and around you.

Intended Impact: Inspiration, Empowerment, Awakening, Clarity, Open-Mindedness, Hope, Peace, and Joy

Each of the authors in this incredible collaboration has written what they have written to show you, no matter who you are, what you have been through, or what you think you can/can’t do – you are so much more than you realize! We share our stories of traversing challenges and opening spiritually in hopes that you will see a little of you in each of us and that in this recognition, you will realize, you are more powerful than you ever realized before. Maybe, just maybe, you start to see yourself (and the world around you) in a light that gives you hope and inspires you to see and love your magnificent self!

What is the Veil?

The Western Veil Nebula. There are no photos, to my knowledge, of the actual “veil” we refer to here.

The Veil is often referred to as the ‘veil of forgetting’ – meaning that when we are incarnated here, we forget the origins of our soul/spirit. People access realms beyond the veil when they are in contact with spirit – ex: mediums, channels, energy workers, shamans, and also those who work in the subconscious. 

Speaking of the subconscious, the veil is also between the conscious and subconscious mind – creating the experience of only having access to the conscious mind (the things you are directly aware of in this reality). Beyond the Veil, we have access to the subconscious realms wherein we can experience ourselves in the past, present, and future – timeless and eternal versions of us. This is also the realm of consciousness wherein we can see the distorted visions of ourselves that we have taken on in our lifetime, allowing us the opportunity to clear these illusions and make incredible, healing changes in our physical lives and sense of “self”.

More on our intended impact…

In addition to the positive impact we hope that each of our chapters will have on the readers, we are also hoping to make the world a better place in other ways…

100% of the proceeds from this book are going to charity:
Operation Underground Railroad

This non-profit (501c3) organization is dedicated to:

  • Ending child trafficking
  • Ending the sexual exploitation of humans
  • Rescuing survivors of these situations
  • Planning for and coordinating their recovery

So your purchase of this book supports not only you, me, and the other authors, but it also benefits children who have been subject to trafficking and sexual exploitation.

I’m proud (and so, so grateful) to be a part of a book project that’s about more than just making money…

Are you inspired yet? 🙂

I am…

Where can I get it?

Presently, this book is available on Amazon in ebook and paperback formats. If you’re interested in the ebook version, you do not need a kindle in order to buy and read this book – you may just need to download the “kindle” app on whatever device you’d like to read it on and link it to your Amazon account. So all you need is an Amazon account and an electronic device.

We are expecting that soon there will also be an audiobook version on audible – enabling others to hear each author read their own chapter! I am really excited by that prospect because I can feel the power in these words as I read them; it’s easy to imagine powerful activations happening as others listen.

I will update this post with additional book versions as they are released and accessible.

Ebook Purchase Links:

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I’ve made a newsletter specifically for updating interested persons about this book’s release versions, dates, and where they can be purchased. I promise the newsletter won’t be spammy! You probably won’t hear much from me except when the other versions are released and where to get them.

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Reiki Principles in Practice

I was introduced to Reiki in 2010, when someone offered to “do Reiki on me,” and I was totally blown away by the experience. I went into it expecting it to feel nothing, but I felt things moving in my body, changes in my perception of weight, and pains that had always been there seeming to fade away…

Some years later, I decided to begin learning how to do Reiki for myself. Now, I’ve been practicing Reiki for three years and have been attuned to the highest level (3/Master). Although practicing Reiki itself has been deeply impactful in a positive way, the principles of Reiki have been one of the most profound aspects of this connection and experience.

Reiki is a form of energetic healing wherein the practitioner is able to tap into Universal energy and channel this energy for the purpose of healing (themselves and others). If you’d like to learn more about Reiki itself, please check out my page about healing, where I discuss how it works, the history, and some of the many benefits of receiving Reiki. However, this article is not about Reiki itself; it is about the principles taught to Reiki practitioners.

Why are you sharing these principles with non-practitioners?

The principles are applicable and practical for every single human being on this planet, regardless of whether they know/remember how to connect with Reiki or not. Not only are these principles applicable to everyone, but I would be so bold as to claim that every single person can deeply benefit from these principles – the whole WORLD could benefit!

How can these principles benefit me?

The primary themes of these principles are in practicing awareness, acceptance, non-judgment, compassion, and presence – which are essentially the cornerstones of mindfulness. Practicing these principles in your daily life can be a fantastically effective mindfulness practice, and the benefits of practicing mindfulness are nearly innumerable.

Here are some of the many benefits from practicing mindfulness, especially applicable to the practicing of these principles:

  • Decreased stress, burn out, and symptoms of anxiety and depression
  • Increased emotional regulation and self-control (less reactivity)
  • Improved focus/attention and performance
  • Improved social and relational skills

Most of us have busy lives, and many of us are just getting by, day-to-day. If this is you, then mindfulness practices (definitely check out those links above) can be real life-savers! Maybe you’re already familiar with some mindfulness practices – amazing – then this will come to you naturally, and these principles can just enhance your beautiful practice.

What are the principles?

While there are some variations in the exact words used used across the various interpretations from the original principles, the core messages remain the same.

These are the five principles of Reiki:

Just for today I release my worries
Just for today I release my anger

Just for today I am honest and diligent (or, do my work honestly)
Just for today I give thanks for my many blessings
Just for today I am kind to every living thing

Many of these principles were originally stated in the future-tense (ex: I will be…), but I have purposefully rephrased them into the present tense. For this post, I want to delve a little deeper into each of these principles and how they can be applied in your everyday life to create more balance, joy, and peace.

Just for Today:

Notice that the principles are all meant to be applied only one day at a time. This is worth pointing out since many of us tend to live in the past or the future, rather than the present. Beginning your day with positive intentions for the day, such as these five principles, can help set the tone for the day and keep you more present.

After setting the intentions at the start of the day, you begin to increase your awareness around these things. Later in the day, for example, you may catch yourself worrying. With practice, you learn to recognize it without judging or shaming yourself, so that you can release the worry. When you acknowledge the experience without judgement, you are brought back into the present and the experience tends to quickly fade.

I release my worries:

This principle is about recognizing that fears and worries typically do not serve us. Most of us are fortunate to rarely experience fear around our immediate survival or anything that we can control. Most often, we are worrying about something that is outside our control and hasn’t happened yet. This worry serves to drain our energy and disempower us.

This principle requires a bit of faith, but I’m going to suggest that this faith is not unfounded. Look at how far you have come and how many times you may have thought a situation was impossible, and yet, here you are! Could you, if just for a moment, imagine that you are exactly where you are meant to be? Is it possible that you have what you need and just need help uncovering/seeing it?

Could you put a little faith in the power and wisdom of the Universe (or God, Nature, your Higher Self, or whatever word you prefer) that everything is as it is meant to be?


My daily affirmation for this principle is as follows:

Today I choose to release my fears and worries, trusting in the power and wisdom of God and the Universe; that everything is as it is meant to be and will be and that good is coming and already is.


I used to be a person whose primary life experience was fear and worry, so I understand that this may sound silly or impossible to some people. That said, I know from my personal experience (and in witnessing others), that with time and practice, choosing to adopt this belief actually causes it to be so.

If you give it a chance, you will likely begin to experience synchronicity, divine timing, and things working out for you in surprising or unexpected ways. You have to believe it is possible in order to perceive this reality. Most people block that perception (and experience) by refusing to believe it is possible.

Today, you can choose to release your fears and worries… One day at a time.

I release my anger:

Now this principle can be misunderstood… Some people may take it to mean that you cannot or should not experience any anger. I am going to suggest this is not the intention behind this principle. Rather, the intention is to witness anger, rather than be swept away by it, and to learn from it, rather than become it.

Anger has its uses. It can alert us to something that doesn’t feel right or sit right with our morals or beliefs. It can also help us recognize situations where we need to stand up for ourselves, set boundaries, or enforce our boundaries. It can also alert us to times when we may be thinking or believing something that’s out of alignment with our true nature. Anger can present as an opportunity to recognize and assess these situations.

The danger in anger is over-identifying with it; allowing it to take over our actions and reactions to the world around us. We tend to believe that our anger is right and therefore something outside of us needs to change in order to resolve our anger. People who unconsciously become aligned with anger tend to blame others, separate themselves, or make others process the anger with/for them. The trouble with this method is that it just creates more anger, hurt, and separation.

Witnessing anger means that, when you are in a situation where you feel the emotion of anger bubbling up, you take a breath or a moment to just step back. Step outside of yourself for a moment so that you can separate your sense of self from the experience of anger. You are not the anger, and you do have control over what you do next. You begin to see that anger brings with it thoughts that try to self-perpetuate. If you watch and question those thoughts, rather than just believing them and falling into the experience of anger, you begin to be able to see how ineffective anger is at actually solving issues.

You may need to give yourself a “time-out” in the beginning so that you don’t end up making other people process your anger. But with time and practice, you will be able to see anger the moment it arises, breathe, and respond from a position of personal-control.


My daily affirmation for this principle is as follows:

Today I choose to release my anger by accepting everything exactly as it is, choosing to witness anger and learn from it.


What’s with the negative wording?

If you’re at all familiar with the practices of making affirmations, you’re probably used to phrasing things in the positive and present. This may lead you to wonder why the first two principles are talking about things we don’t want (worry, anger) rather than things we do want (love, faith, acceptance). I understand this quandary, and I have some thoughts to add on this…

Everything we wish to change begins with our awareness of it.

We cannot jump right into love and acceptance without first acknowledging, accepting and releasing our fears and anger. When we try this, we may be successful in short spurts, but the density of fear and anger always return. Attempting to go right past the challenges to all the good stuff is a form of spiritual bypassing, and it creates an internal fracturing, of sorts. There becomes this separate, hidden aspect of self that still believes in the power of worry and anger…

I see this same pattern in my work as an Intuitive Emotional Wellness Coach: we have to release the old, dense, limiting beliefs before we can build new, positive and empowering ones. The energetic charge of these denser emotions (fear, anger, shame, etc.) has to be acknowledged, felt, and accepted. Then they can be released, creating the spaciousness required for integrating a positive change (and higher vibrational beliefs and energies).

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, EFT, and many other effective therapies work on this same concept of acknowledging what is, feeling it, releasing it, and then choosing something else. It’s a pattern because it works… Anyway, back to the principles!

I am honest and diligent:

Again, another version of this is “I do my work honestly.” But I prefer the word “diligent” – why?

The definition of “diligent”:

  1. constant in effort to accomplish something; attentive and persistent in doing anything (ex: a diligent student)
  2. done or pursued with persevering attention; painstaking (ex: a diligent search of [you name it]).

Diligence refers to our conscious presence – we have to be present in order to be truly diligent. We can’t have our mind on one thing while our body is doing something entirely different – our energy is scattered and less effective. We also don’t give up on something we do diligently; we do it until it is done and done well.

In keeping with the principle, I apply diligence to my honest expression as well as to my presence.

Honest expression refers not only to “speaking our truth” but to all forms of expression, and this points to being authentic (aligned with true self).

What is true to your deepest (yet highest) version of self?

So much more could be said about being authentic, but I will save that for another day and another post. For now, you can begin to ponder – What is authentic to you? What does your deepest, truest self believe and feel?

Hint: our highest and truest Self experiences love, unconditionally, and absolute acceptance.


My daily affirmation for this principle is as follows:

Today, I choose to be honest, diligent, authentic, and present – diligently selecting the thoughts, words, and actions that align with my highest and greatest self.


For me, this one takes the most practice. We are so used to being out of synch with our present experience that it’s easy to lapse out of alignment and into reactivity. When we are reactive, we lose the opportunity to process and diligently respond from a place of authenticity – instead we react based on the conditioning with which we were raised.

But as we practice this, we become more aware of these moments where we lost touch with our diligent and authentic self. It’s important we don’t judge or shame ourselves in these moments because, if we do, we could miss the opportunity to learn from the experience (and we aren’t being diligent or honest with ourselves, yet again). Each one of these experiences presents an opportunity to identify another “not-self” theme/thought/belief, and this give us an opportunity to shed these non-beneficial views so that we can up-level and become more of our true self.

Again, we have to first be aware in order to begin to shift…

I give thanks for my many blessings:

This one is pretty straightforward, isn’t it? After I state this intention, I go through a few minutes of giving thanks for all of the things in my life that bring me joy, enhance my sense of well-being, or add meaning and value to my life.

Here are some things I give thanks for every day:

  • Safe shelter, a place to sleep, a roof over my head.
  • Healthy food and clean water (not everyone has this, even though we all deserve them).
  • Clean clothes of my choosing.
  • The financial stability that I presently enjoy
  • My connection with Mother Earth and her inhabitants – the senses I have available to me and how they allow me to interact with Earth and the other beings who live here.
  • The gifts and talents I have that enhance my sense of purpose and contribution.
  • My amazing Team of Love and Light (my guides) and all the wisdom and joy they share with me.
  • The beautiful relationships I have cultivated with amazing people.
  • More come to me almost every day…

I want to point out that I don’t focus on what I don’t have or what could be better than it presently is… I focus on what I already have and give thanks for all of this.


Here is my daily affirmation for this principle:

Today I give thanks for my many blessings and carry with me an attitude of gratitude


Attitude of Gratitude – what does this mean to you?

To me, it means that as much as possible, I refocus my thoughts on what I am grateful for. So when something “bad” happens, I give thanks for how it could have been worse. When I’m feeling down, I shift my attention towards something that makes me feel gratitude…

I am kind:

Many versions have this include words like “kind to my neighbors” or “kind to all living beings”. I personally feel this principle of kindness expands out to everything – not just human beings or even all animals… It expands out to every single thing we can perceive. Kindness to the inanimate objects, kindness to animals, kindness to other humans, but central to all of this – kindness to the self.

What does kindness mean to you?

Here is the definition of Kind:

  1. of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person: a kind and loving person.
  2. having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence: kind words.
  3. indulgent, considerate, or helpful; humane (often followed by to): to be kind to animals.
  4. mild; gentle; clement: kind weather.

Here is my daily affirmation for this principle:

Today I choose to be kind to every single thing, starting with myself – aligning myself with the energy of compassion and unconditional love.


Kindness is about compassion, which at it’s core excludes judgment. We cannot be kind or non-judgmental when we are constantly comparing things and people as better than/worse than, right/wrong… We are unkind to ourselves when we judge in this way.

Compassion is usually defined as if it means sympathy, but it does not mean sympathy. This isn’t about feeling sorry for others… It’s about allowing them their own experiences. Allowing them to feel as they feel, to be as they are, and to behave as they wish. Compassion is essentially about allowing. Of course, we can feel for someone else and their experience, but the key is really about allowing that experience – whatever it is.

What do I mean by allowing that experience?

I mean not trying to invalidate it. I mean not trying to resist it. This means not telling other people how to be or feel. We just allow that there is a possibility that their experience is true for them.

We extend this same compassion and kindness to ourselves when we allow ourselves to be valid too.

When we think things like “I shouldn’t feel/think this” – we are judging and not allowing. If we extend the kindness to ourselves that we do not judge and shame ourselves, we become better and better at extending this kindness outward.


Those are the Reiki principles and how I use them daily. I hope you enjoyed this post.

Let me know in the comments which principle resonated most for you!

Did this bring up any questions for you? I’d love to hear from you!

Energy Cleansing & Protection Methods

In this post, I want to share some of the most powerful energy cleansing and protecting methods that I have come across in the last several years that I have been studying energy. You may be wondering why this is something you even need to do.

The simple answer:

We are multidimensional beings

We are so much more than the flesh and blood that makes up part of this human experience. We are also not our thoughts, our emotions, or even our beliefs; however, these aspects do set the stage for much of our human experience. Our energy is affected by more than just what we eat or whether we get enough sleep. If we tune into the subtlety of energy, we may be surprised to find there are many times that we are giving our power and energy away to things outside of us – draining, tiring, and even sickening us.

Many of us go throughout our days soaking up the energy of almost everything around us – whether that’s coming from interacting with someone else’s bad attitude, having disappointing experiences with objects or people, or even engaging in the joyful experiences that we share with others. When we have these experiences and attach to them (we judge them, we hold onto them, or we allow them to define our emotional state), we actually accumulate this energy, allowing it to create congestion in our energetic fields/channels. For this reason, the post will begin with some powerful cleansing exercises, and then it will discuss protection methods.

Cleansing Practices

The Violet Flame

The violet flame is an incredibly powerful cleansing practice – it has the power to transmute and dissolve density (negative emotions/energy and karma) and it can also clear our energetic field of any forces that are not aligned with our highest and greatest good. These energies also have an impact on our physical wellness.

There are many ways that various people use the violet flame, and many purport there are specific beings (certain Ascended Masters, like Saint Germain, or Archangels, like Zadkiel) that have to be called on or integrated into the practice; however, in my experience, this is not necessary. The violet flame is an energetic consciousness of sorts that can be called upon by anyone who wishes to use it for cleansing purposes. That said, I will offer how I use it along with some links to other resources that have additional suggestions about how to use it.

How to Use Violet Flame

  • Sit or lay comfortably
  • Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths (slowly and not forced; all the way in and all the way out)
  • Ask the violet flame to be lit in and around your energetic field (you can say this aloud or in your mind)
  • Ask that the flame dissolve and transmute any density, negative energy, or non-beneficial energies in and around your field
  • If you cannot see with your mind’s eye, you can start this practice with looking at the image provided, then closing your eyes trying to recreate the image. Do this while intending that it is doing as asked (you do not have to see it for it to happen – if you intend it, it is happening)
  • Ask that the flame clear your field of any other non-beneficial influences, such as: parasites, discarnates, negative entities, or implants/devices not aligned with your highest and greatest good
  • Sit with this for a few moments, watching or feeling the flame dissolving the density in your field
  • Some of the following links recommend certain phrases, which you may feel compelled to recite as you envision this, but I have personally found the exercise just as effective by just visualizing and intending as described

Sometimes I can see the violet flame being lit around me, and other times, I just feel it like a slightly warm and comforting presence around me. Again, don’t worry if you cannot see or feel anything at first as it may take some practice. If you intend that it is working, it will.

I recommend invoking the violet flame at the start and end of each day.

I also suggest that you explore the following recommendations about how you can use the violet flame, and try whatever practice seems to resonate most with you.

Additional Resources about the Violet Flame:

Lonerwolf: This Little-Known Violet Flame Meditation Can Transform Your Life

The Violet Flame: What is a Violet Flame Decree?

The Summit Lighthouse: Violet Flame – An Ancient Healing Tool


Opening Portals

This practice is best for clearing your space of other entities.

This is a bit of a controversial topic as some do not believe parasitic entities or “demons” exist. For those of you who do not believe in “demons,” another way of looking at this is that everything is energy (including our thoughts). Thoughtforms, such as “I am bad/unlovable/unworthy/shameful” actually accumulate more and more energy (and density) as a person thinks them more often. In time, this thoughtform grows in power and influence, effecting the person who has bought into this belief. In a way, this belief has accumulated energy through their persistent rumination, and it becomes their own “demon” haunting their thoughts and negatively affecting their emotions and energy.

Others may believe in demons in a more physical sense, and this practice works for that too. In fact, this simple cleansing practice can clear your energetic field of parasites, discarnates (ghosts), and negative entities (negative thoughtforms or demons). This is a great one to use whenever you may be feeling drained or confused (or if you sense an unpleasant presence).

How to Use Portals of Light

  • Your eyes can be open or shut, and you can do this literally anywhere at any time
  • Imagine the surrounding space (the room you are in or the few feet surrounding in you in all directions)
  • Command and intend, internally or aloud, “This space is Sacred”
  • Imagine opening a white portal of light, just beyond the perimeter of your predetermined space
  • Command and intend, internally or aloud, “Go to God’s Light” (or “Go to the Light”) three times

When I have practiced this, I have seen in my mind’s eye grey and black forms being pulled into the portal of light, and when I’m done commanding three times, I see that the portal closes and my surrounding space is clear.


White Waterfall

This one is good for cleansing and clearing the energetic field and channel, and it’s a great foundation to the following protection methods.

Imagine, if you will, that you have this channel of energy that flows from the top of your head down past your toes. Now imagine, if you were mechanical, that this channel is like a pipeline. Everything we interact with is being consumed in this energetic channel (or pipeline), and much like a pipe from a kitchen sink, if you keep throwing food into it without rinsing it down (or turning on the garbage disposal), that pipe is going to get clogged.

The idea of this exercise is to turn the water on so that whatever has accumulated in your energetic pipeline can be washed down…

How to Use White Waterfall

  • Close your eyes, and take a couple nice, full breaths
  • Imagine looking up above you where there is a source of white light
  • Let this light fall from the sky, like a waterfall, gently falling down over the top of your head
  • See this white light washing down over your entire body as well as washing through the energetic channel within you
  • Watch it flow all the way through you, down past the bottoms of your feet
  • Continue to visualize this waterfall washing over and through you
  • With practice, this may only take a moment or two to actually feel its cleansing effects

Protection Practices

Generally speaking, it’s a good idea to practice some form of cleansing before you set up protection around yourself. So if you skipped straight to this section, I recommend you go back and see what cleansing practice speaks to you the most, then choose which protection practice calls to you.

White Forcefield of Will

This one is a continuation of the White Waterfall, so start with that exercise and add the following onto it…

After you imagine the white light shining all the way through you and into the Earth, imagine that white light bouncing back up into your body and traveling all the way up to your solar plexus (this is between your sternum and your belly button).

As the light reaches your solar plexus, imagine this white light blasting out into every direction surrounding you, creating a white sphere of light around you. Imagine this sphere extends at least a full arm’s length in every direction around you, though you can make it bigger if you wish.

This practice essentially sets the intention that your will is to project light around you and that nothing can enter this space that is not also of the light.

You can also say something along these lines,


“I am protected and only that which is aligned with love and light may enter my space”


and so it is!


Golden Bubble

I personally like to do this one in addition to the last one, but you can do it instead of the other, after doing a cleansing of some sort.

The color gold is associated with divine love, healing, self-worth, and with Christ Consciousness. In my opinion, it is the strongest protector, but that’s just my opinion.

For this method, you just imagine a golden light washing over you and your surrounding area, leaving behind a golden bubble. You can make the walls of that bubble as thick as you would like them to be.

When I do this exercise, I say (and intend) the following:
“I now call in the Golden Light of Christ Consciousness to surround and protect me, only allowing in that which is in alignment with my highest and greatest good, while allowing out anything that is not aligned or anything that would like to leave”

Adjust what you would say to however fits you. You don’t have to believe in Jesus or Christ Consciousness to use this powerful protecting energy.


Some Final Thoughts

  • These techniques are offered as suggestions, so try whatever interests you most and feel free to make them your own – follow what feels right to you
  • I recommend doing cleansing and protection at the start of each day to help you stay grounded and centered
  • Practicing them at night before you sleep can also help with getting more restful sleep
  • Practice again whenever you are feeling overwhelmed or drained
  • Be patient! If you’ve never tried these things before, it may take a little time practicing to feel the effects
  • Notice the energy you bring to this practice – if you are frantic or in disbelief, then you likely will not have as powerful or beneficial effects as if you can bring a certain calmness and knowing to the practice
  • Enjoy!

Moon Rituals: How and Why

If you’ve never practiced any type of moon ritual, you may be wondering why you would even want to start.

If you’re at all familiar with astrology, you likely already understand how the positions of the heavenly bodies can impact us humans, but even if you’re completely disinterested in astrology, the moon is worth looking into for at least one important reason.

You may know that the tides move with and are affected by the moon. Have you ever stopped to consider how, since the human body is approximately 60% water, the same pull that affects the tides could also affect us? If it can move lakes and oceans, at the very least, it is moving something within us.

In every aspect of our lives, there are cycles – the rise and fall of waves and tides, the cycles of life and death, the push and pull (in our relationships, personal growth, and work, for example), and our own expansion and contraction. Tapping into the cycles of the moon is an amazing way to start moving in synch with these incredible, yet subtle, natural movements and fluctuations.

Since ancient times, the moon has been associated with the unconscious, our intuition, emotions, and reflection. The moon offers us these periods of reflection and the opportunity to tap into the power of these symbolisms, the cycles, and the surrounding energies.

Those who practice moon rituals all concur there is a window of increased manifestation power with the new moon and eased releases with the full moon. Intentionally aligning with these natural cycles can add so much power to your own self-development and personal-growth plans. This is incredible power to harness, and it is so simple to get started!

How to get started

It’s fair to say that moon rituals may not be for everyone, but I highly encourage you, if you’ve never tried, to at least try a moon ritual for at least one month (including the full moon and the new moon).

Moon rituals surround the New Moon and the Full Moon.

  • Start tracking the upcoming new moons and full moons! Search for “Lunar Calender” in your preferred browser to find the most current lunar calender in your own timezone.
    • I like this one since it lets you change the period you’re looking at and your location.
  • Set aside some time either the day of the new/full moon, the day before, or the day after.
    • The energies are most potent the three days before and after the full/new moon, but I highly recommend doing it within approximately 24 hours from the actual lunar event. The energy is most potent then.
    • The time you set aside is totally up to you, but I recommend dedicating a minimum of 15 minutes, though ideally you may dedicate more like 30-60 minutes
  • Create a space
    • This doesn’t have to be an elaborate ordeal! There doesn’t even have to be a specific space, but having a little space that is lovely to you can be so rewarding. It could be a space where you have a candle, a crystal (or a few!), and maybe a journal to write on. If you already have a meditation space or a prayer altar, this is a perfect place to practice your moon ritual.
Simple space example: crystal, candle, and journal
  • Create a ritual of your own! You don’t have to just do what someone else says to do; make your connection to the moon your own. That said, most who practice moon rituals will encourage working with the cycles of the lunar phase:
    • For the new moon, tap into the manifestation and beginning energy present – set intentions about new things you want to do/start, start new activities or behaviors you want to continue, pay extra attention to self-care, or at least reflect on and write about things you’d like to start doing or bring into your life.
    • For the full moon, tap into the releasing energy present – set intentions about things you’re ready to end or release, practice stopping activities or behaviors you want to stop, take time to rest and heal, or at least reflect on and write about things you’d like to move away from in life.
    • Personal Note: I used to try to force the intentions to fit into manifest/release for new/full moons, but I’ve since found that not all of my intentions fit this schema. Some times a full moon can also be about inviting something new in, or a new moon may have an intention to release something too… Follow your intuition!

What can you do for these rituals

As mentioned, the most important aspects of making your ritual are that it works for you and that in some way you’re tapping into the energy that the particular moon cycle offers (new moon: manifest/begin, full moon: release/end).

Here I will offer a number of ideas for you to consider incorporating into your own moon ritual:

Reflect – spend a few moments reflecting on what you’d like to release (full moon) or what you’d like to manifest (new moon). This could be behaviors, habits, reactions, objects – the limits are your imagination!

Take a Bath – use an Epsom salt bath to relax and nurture yourself.

Light a Candle – light the candle while setting an intention to connect with the beautiful energy of the moon.

Meditate – whatever meditation you use is probably great, but if nothing else, you could spend a few minutes just focusing on your breathing, being aware of your body, and seeing if any insights come to you about how to harness the moon energy for this particular period.

Visualize & Feel – going along with meditation, once you’re clear on what you want to release or manifest, it’s an amazingly powerful exercise to visualize in your mind what it will be like when you have released or manifested (as if it’s already happened) – allow yourself to really feel the relief, liberation, and increased energy of having completed this release or manifestation. Imagine all of the details you can think of that surround this intention.

Cleanse – using sage to energetically cleanse your body, room, or home; also, cleaning your altar or special place where you practice your ritual.

Pray – send out a little prayer of gratitude and request assistance with your intentions.

Journal – write out your intentions in a journal: what do you intend to become or release? And/or write out some reflections about the time between this moon cycle and the last. What have you learned? What have you struggled with? What have you manifested or released?

Burn or Submerge – during the full moon, some people love to write things they are ready to release on pieces of paper and burn them; others like to find objects that symbolize things they are ready to release and submerge them in salt water. In either example, one would also say (outloud or in their mind) what they are releasing as they burn or submerge it.

Manifest – during the new moon, some people love to write things they want to attract (or find symbolic images) and either put them into a manifestation box or onto their vision board. A manifestation box is just a different format from the vision board (instead of being a board or poster of images and words, it’s a box full of them).

Ground – this can be spending some time in nature, especially paying attention to your foot-to-earth connection, or it could be using a grounding meditation (one that focuses on the connection to the Earth and to your body).

Get Guidance – this could be a great time for getting a reading from someone who works with the lunar cycles or use some oracle cards you enjoy to receive some guidance about what intentions may be best for you at this time. If you decide to work with your own cards, get calm and very present, release attachments to any particular answers or outcomes, clear the deck, set the intention that the cards will reveal the new/full moon intentions most aligned for your highest and greatest good (and the highest and greatest good of all), then shuffle and pull cards. Listen to your intuition about what the card could be suggesting.


One important note about intentions: phrase them, visualize them, and feel them as if they are in the present tense. For example, instead of saying, “I will release/attract…” you say, “I am releasing/attracting…” – and experience this as if it is already present so that you can really tap into the feeling of this powerful intention and begin attracting it to you.

Example Ritual

I’m sharing my personal ritual just so it can give you some additional ideas of how you can make your own ritual.

On the day of the full moon or new moon, I:

  1. Sage myself and my home with the intention that I am cleansing the space, only allowing in beneficial energies
  2. Light a candle, stating that I intend to connect with the energy of the moon and with my guides
  3. Review my intentions from the last cycle, noting how they have manifested and giving thanks for these manifestations
  4. Do my daily prayer and meditation for about 10-15 minutes, focusing on grounding, connecting to my body and breath, and clearing my mind
  5. Pull oracle cards with the intention that my guides are assisting me with the most beneficial and powerful intentions for this particular lunar cycle
  6. Reflect on each card, what intention it is reflecting to me, and how I can embody this intention (asking my guides for action alignment)
  7. Journal about what I got from my oracle cards and guides
  8. Write out (in my journal) what my intentions are for this lunar cycle
  9. State each of my intentions aloud, pausing after each one to visualize and feel the intention
  10. Thank my guides and the moon for sharing their energy, and I cover the candle.
    This is my purposeful close to the ritual.
    1. Note: some people believe blowing out a candle that you’ve used as part of a manifestation ritual is like blowing out the request/manifestation, so some will choose to use a lid or candle snuff to put it out instead. Follow what feels right to you!
  11. Reinforce these intentions by incorporating them into my daily prayer and meditation routine until the next lunar cycle

For me, this ritual has been incredibly powerful and helpful in my own personal growth process. It is amazing to me to see that, just a couple hours or days after I set the intentions with the lunar cycle, my intention has come to fruition!

Some Additional Articles

For more ideas about setting intentions and working with the lunar cycles, here are some resources that I really enjoyed and you may enjoy too!

About Kinsey

Who am I?

My name is Kinsey. Beyond that, who I am is evolving on a daily basis. As much as I’d love to share my life story, I actually think it’s both irrelevant and a waste of time or energy. Here’s why: my past does not define who I am because I have the capacity to change the lense from which I view it at any time – in other words, I can rewrite my past by changing my perspective. Of course, I’m more than happy to share past experiences as they are relevant.

What I like or love probably best defines me, so let’s start there…

I love:

  • Unconditional Love
  • Animals – yes, humans are animals, too!
  • Mother Earth
  • Yoga
  • Learning New Things
  • Authenticity
  • Tarot
  • Reiki
  • Crystals
  • Any and all things Spiritual & Metaphysical

Why am I here?

I’m making this blog for a couple main reasons:

  • I want to help other people
    • to know they aren’t alone and they are always loved
    • face their fears and conquer them – one by one
    • awaken to and embrace their own true nature
    • try on different perspectives that promote love, peace, and unity
  • I want to grow personally by
    • pushing myself outside of my comfort zone
    • sharing my passions
    • engaging with others

Some of My Story

Considering that I now service others by offering Coaching, Energy Healing, and Spiritual Readings, I want to share a little about my history that lead me to the desire to help others…

  • I grew up in an abusive alcoholic family where physical and emotional abuse were the “norm”
  • I struggled with disordered anxiety from the time I was only 3 years old until I was 32 years old
  • I also struggled with depression on-and-off (mostly on) from the time I was a pre-teen until I was 32 years old
  • I suffered severe sleeping issues most of my childhood and young adult life
  • At 20 years old, I was removed (against my will) from my independent living situation in order to support my family that was in extreme crisis
  • I spent years in therapy seeing all sorts of professionals (counselors, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, and other therapists), and most of this got me nowhere
  • I got my undergraduate degree in Business Administration with a concentration in Accounting, while my family was in crisis over a massive trauma
  • I spent 12 years in the corporate world, making my way up the corporate ladder in the field of Accounting
  • I witnessed my own dysfunctional life-choices as I aimed to gain the approval of my family and abusers
  • I experienced and played a part in dozens of co-dependent relationships that drained my energy and self-confidence
  • And I ultimately had a spiritual awakening in 2018 that caused me to see that I had created a life that kept me stuck in a cycle of anxiety and depression
  • Shortly after my spiritual awakening, I left my (owned) home, my career, and many of my unhealthy relationships

When I had my spiritual awakening, I shook up everything that I had created in my life up to that point. I had been stuck, spinning my wheels, going through the motions on repeat (wake up, exercise, work too many hours, make dinner, clean up, watch tv, go to bed -repeat!). I was depressed because I felt trapped in a cycle without passion, purpose or direction. One day, I woke up and realized I had accidentally manifested a life that wasn’t meant for me at all, and it was time to change that.

I am fairly certain that many people are still stuck, going through the motions, feeling as if that’s just “how it’s supposed to be” or that “there’s no other way.” It seems many people believe that “adulting” means having a thankless job, relationships based on obligation, too much to do, and not enough time to do any of it. These are things we have been conditioned to believe are true because it’s what we witness more often than not. What we think is “normal” isn’t serving us, yet we have resolved to accepting these painful “truths” – signing up for a slow and hard spiritual death.

But we don’t have to die like this… Life is truly what we make it, and it is my goal to help show you how to make your own heaven on earth.

Me Now…

Since my spiritual awakening, nearly everything in my life has changed, and all of the changes have made me a stronger, more emotionally stable, and more joyous person than I had ever been before.

  • I have learned about unconditional love and employed it in all areas of my life.
  • I love and accept myself unconditionally – all parts, no exceptions!
  • I am a better friend to the people I am connected with because they know I will be there whenever they need me. I know how to show up as my best self for others.
  • I have manifested the romantic relationship of my dreams with the love of my life.
  • I have started a career that feeds my soul, giving me purpose and immense amounts of joy.
  • I have overcome my life-long anxiety disorder and depression; I now enjoy so many things I had never imagined I would be able to do.
  • I have connected with many people that I admire, and all of my relationships and interactions are based on mutual-benefit, unconditional love, and absolute joy. My relationships have no obligation and no judgement, and this provides me (and them) a great amount of freedom and joy.
  • My chosen family is supportive of me in all that I do, and I now enjoy family time in a way I never would have thought I could.
  • I don’t waste energy on people who don’t support me what I know I am here to do. I don’t feel the need to defend myself or my beliefs. I know who I am and what I want.
  • I no longer compare myself to others – I compare myself to who I used to be. This is something I can be proud of!
  • I am living in my own “heaven on earth” and becoming a better version of myself every day

Do you struggle with anxiety or depression? Do you find yourself in thankless or unfulfilling relationships? Do you wonder if there could possibly be more to life? Do you ever ask yourself what’s wrong with you? Or do you ask yourself why you keep ending up in repetitive and negative cycles (like relationships fraught with dishonesty, disloyalty, abuse, or abandonment)?

I’ve been there, and there IS a way out of the misery… I’m 100% dedicated to using my unique gifts and talents to be of service to the highest and greatest good of others. Let me use my experience and skills to help you reconnect with your highest and greatest self and start living into your own best life.

Let’s connect…